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The degrading laughter..

Labels: interactions, life, relationship | at 7:01 PM

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This is a re-post from there:

You get a sincere compliment; a statement like...

you are intelligent... your ladylike...your very strong... it all sound so funny to you and you suddenly start laughing.

Let's see this conversation i made up:

Bolt: "You are so young yet so put together,intelligent, a lady..."'

This starts to sound funny to Carmen then all of a sudden she burst out into laughter.

Carmen: "Ha ha ha ha"

Bolt: *....total silence or if lucky enough asks why you are laughing*

Let's go the opposite way

Carmen: "Can you please help me with maths?I know you are one of the intelligent ones.."

This starts to sound funny to Bolt or makes him a bit uncomfortable then all of a sudden usually one of this two scenarios take place:

A.Scenario

Bolt:"Nah, i'm not that intelligent..."

B. Scenario

Bolt:"Haha you really think so?"

Carmen: *long silence.. startled*

And the list and stories go on and on and on, with even more group of people...

Do you know what happened now?

This is a lesson i learned and i found really interesting that i had to share with you to help others too.

The person has a belief in you lets say 70% so complements or states positive things about you.You on the other hand because maybe you don't want to look overly prideful,don't believe that much in your potential or maybe due to self esteem issues you brush it off.And how?With the laughter.That laughter don't always come in a negative or cynical way.Sometimes it just pops out on it's own without wanting to be mean or anything.That same laughter makes the person start questioning you...Why did he/she laughed, maybe she/he is right; she/he knows herself/himself better than i do...you then get that 70% belief the person had for you and lower it into a 30% or sometimes even deplete it.All this happened without you nor i taking notice and that's the sad part of it.Instead you should enhance the 70% into a 100% without being prideful.That keeps both positive and you keeping a balance that's healthy to your esteem.I hope this was helpful to someone.

Let me go back to the scenario in a right form:

Bolt: "You are so young yet so put together,intelligent, a lady..."'

Carmen: "Thanks.I appreciate your kind words.That shows that my hard work it paying off"

Bolt: *smiles*

Let's go the opposite way

Carmen: "Can you please help me with maths?I know you are one of the intelligent ones.."

This starts to sound funny to Bolt or makes him a bit uncomfortable then all of a sudden usually one of this two scenarios take place:

Bolt:"Okay let me see what you've got, i'll try to help as much as i can."

Do you see the difference?Put yourself in both shoes and you will get what i mean.So lets try to remove that degrading laughter away and work on being a better person.

Be aware of the degrading laughter :)

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Robot life-A Christians way to conscious interactions.

Labels: christianity, encouragement, health, interactions, life, relationship | at 7:30 PM

Robot life-A Christians way to conscious interactions.

written by Flower princess

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Recently I’ve realized that our lives have started becoming automatic. We are leaving less consciously. This is a lesson first to me and then to you, if you accept the truth in it. From waking to eating to sleeping and so on. We do things without paying attention. Why?

1. It seems normal and in fact in this world who wants to be abnormal?!

2. It is easy. Once you get used to it, it just happens instantly.

3. We haven’t realized or take notice of this fact. Life is moving so fast to notice.

4. Life is getting automatic; everything is being set on autopilot.

5. The fear of being mediocre. Not so good for the people around you.

6. it’s comfortable.

7. You can’t control yourself anymore or maybe you have no choice.

The list can goes on to the reasons why things are happening like that.

But you know what I’ve realized?

In doing so

We lose our lives.
We forget that our true home is with God.
We become ‘religious’ in the bad sense.
We forget the purpose of our living or creation.
We look normal in what’s not normal and remain just another ordinary person.
We conform to our surroundings, whether good or bad.
We become emotionless.

And the most important is…

That’s what I’m going to analyze now.

Let’s think together.

When was the last time I said good morning and really meant it?

When was the last time I said bye, sorry, hello, love you, God bless you, a compliment, gave a hug e.t.c and really meant it?

These are just some examples but think of sentences you frequently say or things you do.

It’s easy to say I hate you and mean it than to say good morning.

I realized that it’s easy to say something negative and really mean it.

What do I mean when I say mean it?

Let’s check it out. When we say or do things from our heart there is an emotion or a mixture of emotions either positive or negative that is being released. When we talk or act casually in the autopilot mode we feel and release voidness.

How do i bring more positive emotions in my life?

1. The first step is by developing your relationship with God. A healthy relationship with God is the base of godly interactions with others.

2. Meditate upon the word of God and give him the chance to tell you how you can live consciously.

3. Pray and ask God to help you to practice what he expects and told you to do. But before this you must forgive those who hurt you. Yes, that’s the tough part and a constant struggle but with God’s help it is possible. Then ask him also to forgive you from your sins. This way you get cleansed and healthy spiritually which will eventually show in your physical interactions.

4. See life the way God wants you to see it. See the many blessings you have and smile from your heart. Even if things are tough remember God’s love in giving his son and be grateful. You are not forgotten.

5. Share Gods love and emotions. Say hello, laugh, cry, and smile but do it from your heart. Yes i said cry! Crying releases the negativity that you store inside you or can also be an expression of overwhelming happiness. Give a huge hearty hug to someone today! Be genuinely and respectively yourself in Christ. This way you remain healthy in the heart and soul. Now it’s easy; continue to live like this!

God bless you!

Written by flower princess for vivid thougths of Glory and God bless Africa ©

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